Let's start with what despair is. This is constraint, lack of solution. For example, a student knows: tomorrow is an exam, but he no longer has time to prepare. Or a person gets stuck in traffic jams on the way to the airport. Time is running out, and if a miracle does not happen, he won’t be in time for the plane. Or a man built a house, took a mortgage in a bank, his debts are increasing, but there is nothing to give them back.

When despair arises, we realize that we can do nothing more. In despair, we always experience powerlessness. As long as we can do something else, we go to the goal, despair does not come. Despair comes when we notice that it is too late: misfortune has already happened. It destroys what is valuable.

Two poles: despair and hope

If the house was washed away by flood, if the child died, if I experienced violence, if there were constant quarrels in my relationship, if I led a life that led to the wrong decisions (separation, abortion, alcohol ...), then how can I live on? Life is broken, filled with misery.

A desperate person is close to suicide, because everything that represents support, value, breaks down. Either it’s already broken, or I am watching how it falls into decay and disappears. I feel pain when I see that things that are important are destroyed. Or am I standing in the midst of the ruins of ruined life. There is no more hope. What else could be? There is no future, the present is ruins, an abyss. I have no way to intervene and do something, make a decision. I have no choice. I walk close to the wall. I am powerless.

The opposite pole of despair is hope. If I have hope, then there is life. As long as there is hope, not everything is lost. Some kind of turn may take place, because the good has not disappeared yet: the house is still standing still, the relationship is still living, the child, although ill, can recover. The man hopes that the diagnosis he is given is not the most serious. He hopes that he will soon find a job and pay off his debts.

Hope and despair show a similarity: they have the same structure. If I hope, I am also experiencing something like impotence. “I hope” means that I can’t do anything else. I brought the child to the clinic, I take care of him, I am next to him, the doctors are doing what they can do ... And yet I can hope.

How is this possible? When I hope, I am connected with the child and his life. And I will not give up the value of this relationship. Perhaps I’m just sitting back and can’t do anything else, but I’m still in touch. Paradoxically, I remain active. I wish you the best. I still have a little trust.

Only facts preclude the possibility. Hope for the future

The setting of hope is a reasonable setting. In the hope of misfortune has not yet happened, and that what has not happened is not yet fully sure. Something unexpected may happen, and the most reliable thing is to believe that a positive outcome is not ruled out. It’s possible: the child will recover, I will pass the exam, I’m not sick, I will find work.

Only facts preclude the possibility. Hope is directed towards the future. I hold on to my desire, intention, I hope that everything can be fine. I remain true to this value. It is important for me that the child is healthy, because I love him. And I stay in a relationship. I hold this value high in my hand.

Hope is an art. This is a spiritual art. Along with your own weakness, instead of falling into impotence or lethargy, you can still do something, namely, not to give up what is valuable. Moreover, “to do” does not mean external actions. This is a matter of internal installation.

Between hope and despair, there is another concept that is close to despair, namely: “surrender”. When I say, “This no longer makes sense,” then I give up the valuable. This is close to depression. When a person surrenders, he no longer has hope. There is still a little support in indifference - until a person falls into the abyss of despair. In despair, it happens differently: I am already in the abyss.

Without hope, I lose touch with value, lose bearing ground

Despair does not mean that I gave up. A person who has despaired is a hopeful person. This is someone who is still connected with values, who wants the child to get better. The one who hopes remains the possibility of a positive outcome. A desperate person has to see that the value for which he holds, is being destroyed or is already destroyed. One who despairs experiences how hope dies. What is important to his life is being destroyed.

Despair is pain. The Danish philosopher Seren Kierkegaard thought a lot about despair and experienced it himself. For him, despair is a wrong internal attitude. This inner frustration comes from outside of something else. Kierkegaard expanded this and connected with God: he who does not want to live in harmony with God, he despairs.

From a psychological point of view, despair means "not feeling hope." This meaning is clearly seen in the Romance languages \u200b\u200b(despair, désespoir, disperazione, desesperación). Without hope, I lose touch with value, lose bearing ground. It is like fear. Feeling fear, we are experiencing the loss of soil, supporting. In hope, this soil is a love of something valuable. Despair has a structure of fear and meaninglessness - there is no longer any context that could guide me.

Books on the topic

“Reaching Out ... An Existential Analysis of Depression” by Alfrid Langle

Depression is the most common mental disorder. It is familiar to approximately 30% of adult men and women. And children do not have depression. Although they may grieve and be sad. Why is that? Because they have a “good relationship” with life itself, the experience of being is not disturbed - this is the opinion of the existential psychotherapist Alfrid Langle.

What does impotence mean?

Powerlessness forms despair. The word "powerlessness" means that I can do nothing. But this is not identical to the expression "can not do anything," because there are many things that I can not do, even if I wanted to. For example, I can’t influence the weather, politics, headaches. I can do something indirectly, but not directly. Powerlessness means "not to be able to do anything, but to want."

There are two reasons: restrictive circumstances or something personally related to me. When I give up excitement, desire, powerlessness also disappears. This opens up opportunities for work.

Where do we experience powerlessness? In relation to himself. For example, I can feel that I am powerless in relation to dependence, in relation to a tumor that grows, to insomnia, to migraine attacks. I can feel powerless in relationships with others: I cannot change another person. But this relationship is important to me! And now they are more like a prison: I can’t change them, but I can’t even leave - although I am constantly wounded, devalued.

In impotence, fear and panic arise - I feel I am given myself to life to be torn to pieces

I can feel powerlessness in a family in which constant quarrels occur, tension and misunderstanding grow. I have already tried everything, I said - and nothing changes. Of course, we experience powerlessness in large communities: at school, in the army, in the company, in relation to the state - here we often get the feeling “I can’t do anything”, we get used to it.

We experience powerlessness both in relation to nature when floods and earthquakes occur, and in relation to economic processes and fashion changes. Powerlessness - when I am locked: in an elevator, even worse - in a burning car. Then there is fear and panic - I feel I have been given up for life to be torn to pieces. I am powerless towards depression. I am powerless when I feel alone, wounded, offended, alienated. Or when all my life seems meaningless to me. What am I supposed to do here?

Again, look at the opposite pole - “I can.” What does this mean? “Mogu”, like powerlessness, has a double structure: it, on the one hand, depends on circumstances, and on the other hand, on my strength and my abilities. Here the world and my own being come together. In “can,” we relate to circumstances, and therefore obstacles can arise from without. For example, I got stuck in traffic and could not arrive on time for a lecture.

The real "can" is always associated with "let go." This is a basic, fundamental "can"

But obstacles can exist inside. For example, I, unfortunately, cannot speak Russian. This makes me powerless, because I would really like to know Russian. Of course, I could learn it, thereby removing myself from a state of impotence. The answer to the question “can?” Depends on my strength and abilities. They give power with which I can manage circumstances. If I learned to drive a car, I can dispose of it.

The concept of “can” has a huge existential meaning: it not only connects with the world, but also opens up space for “to be”. In this space I can move.

The real "can" is always associated with "let go." If I can do something, then I can let it go. I can allow feelings to exist, so that I can deal with them. I must be able to take pauses, breaks. This is necessary in situations where I do not know what to do. Letting go is the basic, fundamental “I can."

A desperate person cannot let go. What is the problem of impotence? Why is impotence filled with suffering?

Firstly, powerlessness makes us passive, it paralyzes us. More precisely, it does not paralyze, but forces. We feel like something makes us do nothing. It is where I could do something that I am forced to do nothing. Powerlessness is obsession, it is power, it is power. It is like rape. I have to let go, but I don't want to - and that makes me a victim.

Powerlessness takes away dignity. When I am a victim, I am deprived of dignity and value. I watch from the side

Secondly, powerlessness takes away the basis of existence - action. In powerlessness, I can no longer create anything, be somewhere, live relationships, realize something important. I am no longer in powerlessness: my personality no longer develops, the meaning of my being is lost.

Thirdly, powerlessness takes away dignity. When I am a victim, I am deprived of dignity and value. I watch from the side. Powerlessness is associated with despair. This combination gives despair the same structure as with an injury. A serious injury, the experience of impending death deprives a person of support. He is losing ground, and values \u200b\u200bare losing their strength. A person no longer knows what is important to him, does not see a larger-scale system of interconnections, which he can trust.

Two causes of despair and powerlessness

The first is that a person is too focused on a goal that he cannot refuse, leave, let go.

The second - there is no relationship with the deep structure of existence. This means that there is no sense of the value of life, a sense of one's own depth and one's own worth as a Person. There is no longer any meaning that defines existence.

It is important to realize that death is part of life. If I can’t die, then I will again be desperate

This analysis of the causes of despair and powerlessness provides the basis for help. Instead of continuing to frantically hold on, clutching at what was valuable, I should say goodbye and let go. For example, in despair that the disease was fatal, it remains only to accept it. Say: "Yes, it is." And see what I can do about it now.

If we cannot let go, we remain desperate. Subsequently, you can work to feel the deep structures of existence again. So that I can feel the support again. It is important to realize that death is part of life. If I cannot die, then I will again be desperate.

What to do?

We can work with themes of despair and powerlessness through the four basic structures of existence.

1. If someone is experiencing despair, it is important to help him accept a situation that cannot be changed. Accept means "I can let it be." Such an installation is possible only if I see the support, I understand that, in spite of everything, I can be myself.
2. When it comes to hopelessness, sadness helps. Tears of sadness can connect us to life again. It happens that I experience despair, it seems to me that I myself ruined my life, and I can’t forgive myself for this. Then it’s important to understand again who I am. To regret means to see what I have done, and at the same time feel what pain it hurts me.
3. If there is no way to change something, it is important to learn to live in new conditions. Ask yourself: what does this situation want from me? If I have cancer now, what does cancer want from me? How can I continue to live with this disease so that my life remains full? Yes, it will be a different life, but it can be no worse than the one where I was healthy. So I will find support again.
4. It is important to look for something that allows you to experience inner agreement. When I am satisfied with what I am doing, a feeling of fullness will come into my life.

Despair... A feeling that is familiar to everyone. Feeling that no one is happy. Can I fight him? How not to fall into despair?

When do we fall into despair?

I do not envy people in creative professions. Having received the education of an actor, I realized how hard it is for the psyche to work in such a field. Today, many celebrate creative professions, not realizing that they include not only creative joys, but also unbearable creative crises. And every such crisis can be accompanied by a fit of despair. Why does it arise? Because there is no ready-made scheme in creativity. We do not know what to do if the role does not go. Does not go - and that’s it! At least do something! You go on stage and feel like you miss, miss ... Nothing arises, everything is flat, tense, mediocre, unbearable ... Although yesterday everything was going well! And we know that we can’t tell the audience, the director, the partners - “Sorry, I’ll probably take a short vacation and will not appear on the site in the next couple of weeks.” More precisely, so to speak, of course, you can ... But then you have to look for another theater. Moreover, almost all performances rehearse in two or three sets ... Therefore, if you today you can’t cope with this unsolicited crisis, It is likely that tomorrow you will be back in the crowd. How not to fall into despair in a similar situation?

Another example. Young mom. I'm tired Out of breath. I did not sleep half the night. There is a mess in the house. There is no food. Itself - scary, like a zombie, and dissatisfied with herself. And the child is yelling and yelling ... Who has not encountered such a situation? How do you deal with rolling despair?

And the third situation. Nothing seems to have happened. Everything is as always, everything is fine. But inside there is some concern. You try to somehow deal with it, you begin to meditate, work with awareness ... But it doesn’t, and that's all ... There is no awareness. No, no matter what you do. Awareness slips between your fingers, leaving you with this aching worry... At some point, despair also appears.

What unites all these situations?

1) Lack of vitality. Fatigue. No strength to move forward. As long as we have the strength, we are ready to fight, to decide something. As long as we have energy, we do not give up and do not fall into despair.

3)  Inability to get out of the situation and relax. Need to solve the problem right now. We cannot relax, put our thoughts in order, and look at the problem from the other side. Time is running out. More precisely,   it seems to us that time is running out. In most cases, we can find at least 10 minutes to stop ... But the illusion of pressure  doesn't let us do this.

4) Misunderstanding that the main problem is inside, not outside. We are so concentrated on external difficulties that we forget the main thing ... Despair is the result of internal disharmony, internal tension. And before we can deal with the outside world, we must allow   the problem that is inside. It is necessary to neutralize this despair, which fetters us hand and foot.

How to cope with a sense of despair?

1) We stop. First, just stop. We stop this hysterical internal dialogue ("I do not have time! Everything is collapsing! I can not do anything! And so on."). Stay in silence for about a minute. Take a look around ... Feel your hands ... Shoulders ... Head ... Feel your whole body ... This will be enough to just stop.

2) As always, start with accepting the situation and herself. We repeat the mantra “I love myself, approve myself and accept myself!”, Say gentle compliments to ourselves ... If you want, you can spend 10-15 minutes taking care of yourself: a face mask, makeup or bath. This will help you get distracted, calm down and look at the problem from a different angle.

3) After you have calmed down a bit, start study your emotions. Be aware of your feelings, consider them from all sides, observe your inner state ... Observe the whole situation as if from the outside. Try to see something funny, ridiculous in the situation ... Looking at your problem more consciously, you will realize that your despair is not worth it.

4) The most difficult. Let the situation go. Tell yourself - be what will be! Keep doing what you should, but don’t worry about the result. From your experiences, the problem will not decrease. Rather, the opposite. Appreciate yourself.  Take care of your health. There is nothing more important than your mental health, your well-being, your peace of mind. So release the situation and relax.

Tell us how you deal with bouts of despair? How often do you fall into despair?

Love yourself! Take care of your health!

It could be anything. Your past successful work experience. Received education. A support group made up of family and friends. Try to remember all your merits, everything that you can be proud of yourself, starting from winning a school football game and ending with winning a major tender at your last job.

If all of the above does not help, then get your kindergarten photo out of the bowels of family albums. Look into the eyes of this child and remember how many promises they made then: to become a pilot, a great boss, a happy person at last. You certainly can’t deceive him, right?

2. Place all the dots over i

Sometimes we cannot find work simply because we don’t know what we are looking for. We mumble something like: “I want a salary of at least N thousand rubles” or “I want to work in the specialty I got at the university.” When fate so helpfully presents us with what we, in fact, asked for it, we have a heap of discontent and doubt: “No, the salary, of course, is decent, and I studied this for five years, but I'm not sure I’ll be able to take on such responsibility / every weekday to come to the office, which is located at the other end of the city / to process ”and so on.

In order not to fall into this trap, code-named “What I requested, I received”, you should not have vague ideas about your future work. Take a piece of paper and describe in detail everything that you expect from your life’s business, from job duties and salary to the presence of a dress code and coffee machine in the office.

Perhaps by compiling such a list, you will realize that you want too much. At least for now. And this is not a tragedy, and this does not mean at all that you should bury your dreams without even giving them a chance to become a reality.

In this case, it is very important to remember your ideal. And to know what you are ready for, until it is offered.

3. Remember that your life is not only a job search

When the last 500 rubles are left in your pocket, when all your friends on social networks consider it their moral duty to constantly ask you: “Well, have you found a job?”, When you go every hour, it’s very easy to make a nervous breakdown.

Yes, job search is your top priority right now. But do not forget that your life is passing. And in the cases described above, it passes in torment. Yes, you are looking for work, but this does not mean that you should give up workouts, hobbies, friends - everything that brings you joy. And it is unlikely that your future employer will want to see in your team a nervous, emaciated, gloomy person, into whom you will very soon turn into, if you live with only one thought - to find work.

Do not console yourself by living fully as soon as you find work. If you do not know how to be happy every minute of your life, even if these minutes have fallen on, you do not know how to be happy in principle. And as soon as you get the long-awaited job, you will immediately find yourself many other reasons for suffering.

4. Look for workarounds

Lack of money is the main reason why we agree to work that will bring income, but not joy. If you feel that everything is not lost yet, and you have the strength to fight, don’t give up, don’t settle for less. Secure a financial rear: try yourself in a role or find temporary work with a free schedule. So you can calmly look for something that will appeal to you, without worrying at the same time that when you are invited to a regular interview, you simply will not have money for the trip.

There is another workaround - to return to your previous job, if your position is still free, of course. A way that for many people seems like a disaster. The very thought of returning to what you once grew up from is just the wildest nightmare. Take a step back. Give up. To lose. Sign in their own impotence.

But do not forget:

There is nothing more monstrous than what we can inspire ourselves.

John Steinbeck

After a week, most of your colleagues will not even remember that you were absent for some time. The earth is spinning, life goes on, everyone has their own problems, and if you yourself do not call yourself a failure, then no one will.

Whatever strategy you choose, the main thing is to know your own worth. Paralyzing fear, not our inability, is what in most cases is the real cause of our failures. Be brave enough to work not only because “it is necessary” and “they pay me for it,” but because you really enjoy what you do.

And what once helped you or helps you not to despair when looking for work?

In a difficult situation, they lose heart, despair, go into binge and break only weaklings, but not men. It is difficult for a real man to “knock out of the saddle”. How to maintain fortitude and not hang up your nose?

Any person has got into a difficult situation of grief, failure or loss in his life. Everyone knows a sense of confusion, despair and hopelessness, a feeling of one’s own inferiority. Someone knows how to quickly cope with such a state and rebuild, someone succeeds with time, and some are “knocked out” for a very long time, if not forever, consider themselves losers, broken by fate or circumstances, stop acting, live a full life go into illness or binge, and maybe into depression. What to do?

Despondency is one of mortal sins. This means that you can not give in to panic, indulge in decadent moods, despair, lose hope and fall into spleen. It is very easy to proclaim, but very difficult to do. Let’s try to figure out how not to give up despair and how to overcome despondency. Maybe, after all, there are some ways to fight and overcome this difficult state of mind.

  1. Believe in yourself and your strength.It means knowing that you can stand it and can overcome a lot. Know that a lot depends on you, and you are not just a “screw”. If it did not work out the first time, it will work out with the next attempt.

  2. Soberly, honestly (in front of oneself) and realistically evaluate their capabilities and abilities.  This means being aware of the level of your knowledge and skills, understanding that someone can be better than you. A weighted assessment will allow you to avoid disappointment and trouble, unnecessary and waste of energy. But does someone stop us from becoming better, stronger, wiser, more professional? None but ourselves.

  3. A calm analysis of the situation.  It is necessary to calmly, without emotions, evaluate the bad experience and understand what was done wrong, or - the efforts were not enough, or maybe, on the contrary, too much. An analysis of the situation will give peace of mind; only in a balanced state can a constructive solution be found. A calm, even state is no longer the blues.

4. Learn a lesson.This means understanding that failure is a harbinger of victory, and failure happens to everyone, but not everyone refers to failure as failure. This is just EXPERIENCE. A tolerant attitude towards failure unleashes success. It is necessary to develop a habit of benefiting from failure, this is one of the most important methods to achieve success.

5. Get support - moral and professional.  This means asking for help from loved ones - family, friends. And / or contact specialists - doctors, educators, psychologists, spiritual teachers. The support and help of loved ones in difficult situations is necessary for everyone. But, if you very often asked for help and exhausted the credit of trust of relatives and friends, then the difficult situation is just the case when you can take control of your destiny into your own hands.

  6. Look for the positive in what happened.  A fact is known - as a result of the crisis, one very wealthy businessman lost $ 100 million. He has ONLY 100 thousand dollars left. He committed suicide. The loss of money was for him the loss of everything, even worse than the loss of life.

And now imagine an average citizen who did not have a ruble and suddenly 100 thousand dollars! A lot of money! It turns out this is from what point of view. We remained alive and healthy, everything is fine in the family - the rest can be experienced and overcome.

7. Do not break the laws - state and moral.  This will make it possible to live in harmony with oneself and with others, and will not lead to difficult and dangerous (and maybe irreparable) situations.

8. Distraction.  Remember what Scarlett O’Hara said? “I’ll think about it tomorrow ...” An intractable, or perhaps completely insoluble situation, is not all life, it is only part, albeit very painful. There should be much in life that “keeps afloat”. This is love, friendship, religion, nature, art (literature, painting, music, etc.), sports, hobbies. Find a lesson that distracts from heavy thoughts, or just do something else. It can be a general cleaning, repair, something that will take all the effort and time. It’s not for nothing that people say - the morning of the evening is wiser.

Just do not "go" to alcohol and other similar pleasures. This will only drive the problem deep, from where it will be difficult to get it, and even a moral and physical hangover will be added.

  9. Avoid negative emotions, especially guilt and shame. These emotions are not helpers in solving complex life problems. Negative emotions impede the full functioning of the brain; with them it is not possible to make the right decision at the moment. And the saddest thing is that negative emotions are the basis for the emergence of various addictions, alcohol, nicotine, drugs, etc.

10. Take responsibility into your own hands.  To take responsibility for yourself is to understand that for your life, its quality, personal achievements, you alone are responsible, and do not shift the blame on colleagues, parents, teachers, superiors, etc. If you did something wrong, then try to correct the situation with word and deed - apologize, talk and explain your position, help establish what you ruined.

  11. Smile!  If it is very bad at heart, try to smile, and even through force to stretch your lips in a smile. The body remembers that such a position of the lips corresponds to a good mood, and as it is not surprising, the mood will begin to level out and even (!) Improve. Tension, emotional and physical, will begin to subside, the situation will no longer seem so insoluble or tragic.

Pursuing failures can develop a fear of failure and an avoidance strategy. This means that a person will not strive to achieve success, but will abandon active actions and try his best to avoid failure. The worst news is that no one can help overcome this fear. But the good news is that everything is in our hands. We have a choice: either we grow huge weeds of fear, or we can sow the seeds of faith in ourselves and our strengths. Good luck

Complete despair: how to survive in a storm of life

September 22, 2017 - 2 comments

Complete despair overtakes when the irreparable happens and it seems that nothing can be changed. How to live on, when bitter despair and anguish torment the heart of those abandoned by loved ones, how to survive despair to a person who has lost his job or livelihood and is overcome by panic. But the most hopeless may be the despair of those who are tired of struggling in search of the meaning of life. When despair sets in, the future seems to be covered in utter darkness.

Let’s try for a moment to distance ourselves from difficult experiences and together see what caused the greatest despair, because understanding the reason, we find a fulcrum. How to find a way out and overcome complete despair - we deal with the system-vector psychology of Yuri Burlan.

If despair is such a universal sensation, then can a means of combating despair be just as universal? It happens.

Yuri Burlan reveals how the human psyche works, and these awareness of ourselves and others, of the causes of our actions and reactions in an amazing, but quite natural way give ground under our feet. They increase stress resistance and allow you to survive a difficult period. You realize why you feel bad, and you see your reserves, which in a state of complete despair can be difficult to feel. Let us examine the problem of complete despair using examples.

A state of despair in a person who has lost love

The superemotional and sensitive owner of the visual vector can lead to despair breaking the emotional connection, the loss of a loved one. And the stronger the connection was, the closer the one whom the spectator lost was, the stronger the person’s despair will be. There is despondency, it seems that love will never succeed again. Being in this state for a long time is impossible, and then despair can be replaced by complete apathy for love, a person can never love anyone in his whole life.

When this kind of despair catches up, what should a desperate spectator do? To realize your nature, features, your mission in this world with the help of systemic knowledge about the psyche. And although in the moments of complete hopelessness and despair the whole world is not sweet, it’s worth making an effort on yourself, getting out of the shell of experiences that, in essence, are focused on yourself, and being able to direct all your emotionality, which is crushing by pain from within, to help another. Amazingly, this changes everything.

For a visual vector with an innate desire for compassion, empathy, love, this is the only sure way to get rid of a sense of despair at the thought that love is lost forever.

Here is what those who write about it who were able to overcome their despair from breaking an emotional connection write:

“... I was terribly afraid of him, to a palpable uncontrollable trembling in my legs and arms, to a slight fainting. And at the same time it was an emotional and sexual addiction that went unnoticed and forever. I really wanted to leave, I left him. And this began ... I started training at the most crucial and difficult moment in my life. He was barely holding back his aggression.

Everything that I heard at the training did not surprise me at all, everything is so natural and real ... And at some point everything changed, I became the mistress of the situation. From nothing - into strength and desire to live. Unconsciously then (only now I understood it) I stopped provoking him altogether and, moreover, at critical moments I said that he liked to say so. And thus she defended herself. ... "

The desperate condition of a person who has lost money

There are completely different causes of despair in a person with a skin vector. The skinners are rather secretive, and their requests for help are not often heard, but they may also experience complete hopelessness from not knowing what to do next.

For the owner of the skin vector, it is very important to live better than others, to be the first in everything. A very important indicator of such a life is money. And if suddenly the skinner can’t make enough money or for some reason loses the capital he has earned, this can plunge him into despair for a long time. A complete misunderstanding of where to go next makes life on the edge of despair not life, but existence.

When this kind of despair catches up - what should an unfortunate skinner do? Deep despair in a person with a skin vector occurs in the same way as in the spectator - from the fact that a false thought arises about the impossibility of standing up. It seems that along with money and position in society, some important part of oneself is lost. However, it is not.

You can deal with these obsessive thoughts with the help of a complete awareness of your properties at the training of Yuri Burlan System-vector psychology. Inborn qualities and properties do not disappear anywhere under the influence of external factors. Fear may appear, complete uncertainty about the future and its actions, but the qualities obtained at birth by a person will remain with him forever.

A man in despair: getting out of a bad state

To summarize, we can give a short list of tips for the owner of any vector in the case when despair overcomes:

• to understand the reason that led to despair, at a deep, unconscious level (at the level of vectors and innate properties);
• to realize your natural properties - this will allow you to find ways to slowly go out, realize yourself;
• act.

The hardest thing is complete hopelessness experienced by a person with a sound vector who suffers from a sense of the meaninglessness of life. When he presses despair and the soundman does not know what to do, destructive methods can be used. For example, drugs. If the viewer can find love, and the skinner can find money in the world around us, then the sound player in search of the meaning of life may experience complete despair, because it seems that everything has already been tried, but nothing fills it with a sense of meaningfulness.

At the training System-Vector Psychology of Yuri Burlan, a person with a sound vector finds the answers to his questions. So, as many have already done.